Whether it is your first time in recovery or you have put some time together in the past, finding a sponsor is key to your ability to stay sober. For some, the task of picking a face from under a raised arm at the end of an AA or NA meeting can feel overwhelming.
Anyone who has ever found themselves in one of these meetings has felt the fears of opening up to another person about their life. Sharing the story of how you wound up in the worst spot of your life to someone is not only scary, but also very freeing. The benefits of working through a 12 step program with a sponsor GREATLY outweigh whatever fears that may be holding you back.
No one is perfect. And sponsors fight the same battle for sobriety that their sponsees do. A relapse can happen on either side of the fence, but a successful trip through the 12 steps can and will save your life, if you let it.
5 Tips for Finding a Sponsor
- Find someone. Anyone. Even if you find that you disagree with their beliefs, you can always find a better match at the next meeting, but at least you will have someone to lean on if you need it.
- Don't judge a book by it's cover. Sometimes the biggest hearts and deepest wisdom come from unlikely people.
- Men sponsor men. Women sponsor women.
- Choose someone who has something you want, such as a positive attitude, caring personality, stable marriage, or even just a long period of sobriety.
- Don't over-complicate it. There is no perfect sponsor. What matters is that you get one and work the steps so that, in time, you can offer your experience to the newcomer as it has been offered to you.